Monday, February 6, 2012

The Making of a Marriage - Part 1

For the next three weeks, since it is after all the month that we celebrate Romantic Love, we will be looking at certain aspects that play a role in making marriage work well: sex, communication, and roles.

As a Christian, I believe that the rock solid foundation of marriage has to be the covenental promise that is made between the husband, wife, and God at the time of the marriage ceremony. This is a holy promise and is not one to be taken or broken lightly.

While it is this covenantal aspect of marriage that creates the bedrock to build the marriage on, a husband and wife still need the building materials to create the relationship that shelters and nurtures that relationship. The first building material we are looking at is the physical relationship between a husband and a wife.

God created sex and He called it GOOD! He created us to be sexual creatures, also something that is GOOD! When sexuality and the act of making love are put in their proper place, there is nothing sinful or dirty about them. The proper place for these things is in the marriage relationship - a committed, life-long, monogamous relationship.

The physical relationship between a man and a woman helps to bond them together. I know that once the kids come and the romance fades, the frequency and passionate nature of love making begins to fade. Don't let this happen in your marriage. If you get nothing else out of this blog today, pay attention to this: MEN NEED SEX TO FEEL LOVED AND WOMEN NEED TO FEEL LOVED TO HAVE SEX. It is a circular patter that someone is going to have to start it and usually, women, it is easier for you to get the ball rolling. It may not seem fair, but there it is - deal with it. :) You will not be sorry.

Sex may not be what 'makes' a marriage, but it can certainly break it. Don't stop taking care of this very important building block of your marriage!


The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. - Genesis 2:25